Understanding Love and Being Loved
Romantic relationships are complex. They are a dance of give-and-take, where learning how to love someone the way they want to be loved is as critical as learning to receive love in return. This delicate balancing act is often one of the most challenging life journeys. Here at CCC, we help partners learn how to both love and be loved, striking that perfect equilibrium.
Communication, Intimacy, and Self-Care
Central to our approach is building communication and intimacy, alongside fostering personal wellness. Partners are encouraged to understand the balance between auto-regulation (taking good care of oneself) and co-regulation (taking good care of each other). The ability to discern which contexts require which strategy is a focal point of our couples therapy at CCC.
Holistic and Unique Approach to Couples Therapy
CCC blends two distinctive methods of couples therapy, providing a comprehensive and unique approach to address both common and unique relational struggles.
Gottman Method of Couples Therapy
Building Love Maps
‘Love maps’ refers to our understanding of our partner. In the honeymoon phase, we build an image of our partners, but with time, it’s easy to lose track of who they’ve become. We focus on updating these ‘love maps’ to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.
Rebuilding the Friendship
We aim to increase the level of fondness and admiration during stages of disconnection in relationships. Returning to a positive emotional state is key to rebuilding trust and connection.
We encourage partners to welcome and respect each other’s thoughts, ideas, and feelings. This openness helps inform decision-making processes that impact the relationship.
We guide couples to discuss challenging topics without devolving into fights. The focus remains on addressing the problem, not blaming the partner(s).
Acceptance is crucial for relationship health. We help couples understand and find acceptance around their relationship’s unsolvable or perpetual problems.
PACT: The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy
Creating Profound Safety and Security
We help couples create a ‘couple bubble’, a safe environment that buffers against life’s normal struggles. This bubble allows partners to understand what makes each other feel secure, fostering a relaxed, supportive relationship.
Calming the Brain
Understanding the neurobiology of patterned conflict is vital for a healthy relationship. We offer insights into calming the brain, reconnecting with the more evolved, social parts of our selves during conflicts.
Understanding Early Attachments
Insights into the impact of early childhood experiences on adult relationships are essential. Recognizing unmet needs from our partner’s past can guide us to support them better.
Creating Rituals of Connection
Establishing daily habits and rituals of connection safeguards partnerships against future periods of disconnection and strengthens present connection. Context matters more than we often realize, and we place importance on building these rituals.